Finding a Mentor and Being a Mentee

I was first introduced to the idea of having a mentor in graduate school.  My program told me it was “very important” but the specifics on how to find one, what made for a good one, what you should discuss with them, etc., were vague.  I did my best, though, searching out opportunities to connect with more senior women in my field.

Fast forward 10+ years and people are now telling me I’m their mentor.  Crazy, right?

Recently, I was thinking back over my experiences of being both a mentee and a mentor.  It made me wonder: why were some of these relationships great while others were not so great?  Here’s what I concluded.